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Are you dealing with your triggers?

As we go through life, we experience wounds, hurts and disappointments and a trigger shows you an emotional wound within you that needs healing.

A trigger is when some kind of external or internal evokes a strong emotional response.

It can be a negative trigger, which makes feel anger, sadness, anxiety or other intense emotions, or it can be a positive trigger which makes you feel intense joy, happiness and excitement.

A trigger gives you an opportunity to look within yourself and to work on emotional wounds.

Triggers are accompanied by the fight, flight, freeze and fawn response. It is a physiological reaction that occurs in response to a perceived trigger. When triggered some people will fight and get aggressive, verbally or physically. Other people flee. They want to escape a situation in order to protect themselves. Others will freeze, shutting down, disconnecting from their bodies and the feeling of overwhelm.

Another reaction in response to triggers is fawning. We please people and do and say things to get someone else to calm down or to stop whatever they are doing or to win their affection. This happens at your own expense.

Or, if not one of the above, we blame. We blame someone else or ourselves for what is happening.

Your brain’s main function is to keep you safe at all times, and your brain filters information and form interpretations based on past experiences and it uses these reactions to protect you from subjectively perceived trauma. This is a clear clue of emotional wounds that needs healing.

Instead of fighting, fleeing, freezing, fawning or blaming, strive to face your triggers head on. Use your triggers to open up and allow it to teach you, and evolving your emotional intelligence.

Sometimes these triggers are to let us know another person’s behavior is not okay but sometimes, however, you will realize your trigger has nothing to do with another person or situation, but that it is something that you need to change or heal from within.

Learn the Sacred Pause. Through the sacred art of pausing, you will develop the capacity to stop hiding or running away from your experience. When triggered, pause and be within yourself. Accept and feel your emotions with compassion and love for yourself, asking yourself what this emotion is here to teach me.

Ask yourself things like why am I feeling this way? What happened in my past that triggered this negative emotion? Am I overreacting? What am I afraid of? Which values are being threatened right now?

Always approach people with compassion and express yourself with love, good intention and integrity.

All humans just want to be loved, understood, and be respected.

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